How To Build Self-Confidence: All You Need To Know.

How To Build Self-Confidence All You Need To Know.

Building self-confidence is no doubt a very tough issue, but in this article I am going to how you all you need to know on how to build self-confidence.


As I said earlier, building self-confidence can really be a tough issue, but if you get the right tips it might seem easy.

Especially when those tips are coming from those who have personally gone through what you went through.

And thereby gather their experiences to put together those steps you can really take towards building your self-confidence.

In this article, you will be able to understand, after reading to the end these 3 facts:

  • You will understand the real definition of self-confidence.
  • It will help you to be a more confident person.
  • Discover some practical steps that will help you to build your self-confidence.

What is self-confidence.

Selfconfidence may be defined as an attitude that concerns human skills and abilities. It simply means you accept and trust yourself and exercise a sense of control over your life.

Who is a confident person?

Everybody is not born with the ability to catch a natural or inbuilt sense of self-confidence.

At times it can seem really hard to build up self-confidence, probable because the personal experiences you had over the things you’ve been through in life have caused you to loose your self-confidence.

Or because you have or are suffering from low self-esteem, often referred to as inferiority complex.

A confident person will tend to do the following or more:

  • Do what he believes is right, even if it is not an established idea.
  • A confident person is always ready and willing to take risks.
  • Always spot and admit his mistakes and most importantly learn from them
  • Does not reject or be carried away by compliments.
  • Is always very optimistic.

How To Build Self-Confidence: All You Need To Know.

There are a thousand and one ways you can build your self-confidence.

Some of them will require you to make some small changes to your mind state, while others will require you to work on your wttitudes a bit longer until you turn them into habits.

Whatever might be the case, here are some of the tips you can follow in order to acquire self-confidence.

1. Look at your achievements.

The reason why so many people loose their confidence is because they think they have not been able to achieve anything in life.

But it is clear and certain that at one time or another, we have achieved something in our lives; no matter how little or insignificant we might consider it to be.

Being able to graduate from junior to senior high is an achievement, whichever way you might choose to look at it.

So make a list of what you have achieved so far in life; and as I said earlier no matter how small or insignificant you might consider it.

And whenever it seems you are having a low impression of yourself, go through the list and beat yourself in the chest that you are not and can never be a failure in life.

This then will remind you of how awesome and wonderful you are, and in so doing help you to build that confidence in yourself and abilities.

2. Discover the things you are naturally good at doing.

God has blessed each and evrryone of us with different talents and abilities.

There are things we can do or have even done severally in life without being tutored or trained by anyone.

Playing football or singing are examples of things so many people have done without being tutored or trained by anyone.

Therefore, one of the things you can do to build your self-confidence is to discover the things you are naturally good at doing and try to pursue a goal or career in that particular field.

3. Set goals you want to achieve

Most times we loose our self-confidence because we lack the goals we want to pursue in life.

So if you want to build your self-confidnce, try and set goals for the things you want to achieve in your life.

It is safer to write out those goals and glance at it every now and then to keep a mental picture of what your plans for tomorrow are.

This goals do not necessarily have to be that big or great as you can start with smaller ones that has available resources and time frame to achieve.

Achieving this small goals will then motivate you to pursue bigger goals and become successful in life.

This success in turn will help you to build your self-confidence in the long run.

Read also: How To Become The Architect Of Your Destiny.

4. Talk to yourself

Somwtimes we loose self confidence because something in our head keeps telling us how insignificant we are in oife.

And when you have these kind of thoughts going through your mind, there is no way you will ever be able to build your self-confidence.

So the trick here is to reflect on that self-talk and see how it’s affecting your performance in life.

And then treat yourself like your second person who is caring and positive and always cheer yourself on with motivating and inspiring words.

5. Find and do something you are passionate about.

We often refer to the things we are passionate about as an hobby.

So try and find your own hobby in life so that whenever you seem to loose your self-confidence, you might engage in that hobby and keep yourself occupied to escape those negative thoughts that brings about low self-esteem.

Chances are that engaging in activities you are passionate about will help you be more motivated and inspired and in so doing build the neded skills to help you progress in life.


Sometimes trying out the above tips by yourself will require a longer time to manifest.

So if you try them and it doesn’t just work out, then I guess you have to talk to someone who is trained to help others build their self-confidence in life.

Professionals such as counsellors and psychologists are always there to help you develop the strategies as well as assist you to build your self-confidence.

Additionally, they will be easily able to recognize and understand the underlying problems that might cause you to loose confidence in yourself.

Good luck!

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